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This is the toughest topic so many deal with. Many will actually keep this anger, resentment for many years for most that don't even remember having hurt you! This is a weight that we should not carry for long. The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget. Forgive many things in others; nothing in yourself. Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. To err is human; to forgive, infrequent. Forgiving others is a personal and often challenging process, but it can bring about healing and growth.

Here are some key points to consider when it comes to forgiving others:

1. Acknowledge your feelings: Recognize and validate the emotions you're experiencing as a result of the situation or the actions of the person you're trying to forgive. It's important to allow yourself to feel anger, hurt, or betrayal before you can move towards forgiveness.

2. Understand the situation: Try to gain a broader perspective by understanding the circumstances and motivations that may have led the person to behave the way they did. This doesn't justify their actions but can help you see the bigger picture.

3. Empathy and compassion: Practice empathy by trying to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Consider their background, experiences, and possible reasons for their behavior. This can help cultivate compassion and understanding, which are essential for forgiveness.

4. Let go of resentment: Holding onto resentment and grudges can be emotionally draining and prevent you from moving forward. Forgiveness involves consciously deciding to release negative feelings and resentment towards the person who has hurt you.

5. Communicate if necessary: If it feels appropriate and safe, you may choose to communicate with the person you're forgiving. Expressing your feelings, setting boundaries, and seeking resolution can be a part of the forgiveness process. However, it's important to prioritize your safety and well-being in such interactions.

6. Self-reflection: Take time to reflect on your own role in the situation and any possible contributions to the conflict. Self-reflection can help you grow and develop self-awareness, leading to healthier relationships in the future.

7. Practice self-care: Forgiving others can be emotionally challenging, so prioritize self-care during this process. Engage in activities that bring you joy, practice mindfulness or meditation, seek support from trusted friends or professionals, and be patient with yourself.

Remember, forgiveness is a personal journey, and it may take time to fully let go of negative emotions. It doesn't necessarily mean forgetting or condoning the actions, but rather freeing yourself from the burden of holding onto anger and resentment.

It is not easy but well worth the release of the weight of carrying the memories of someone lying, betraying, and hurting you. Understand this IS NOT about having to find them and forgive them. It is abut you letting it go!

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